Eclipse Medicine: Collapsing Time, Removing Space, Mastering Motion
Eclipse season has brought to the surface an inner child belief, something I picked up in the environment I grew up in that has been affecting me and my personal and romantic relationships ever since.
I’ve been confusing fear with love, or at the very least the two have been deeply entangled.
Maybe you’ve felt something similar? When love feels fragile, conditional, or exhausting. Like you have to earn it or tiptoe around it.
The root of this belief came front and center for me recently when I decided to navigate returning to “church” for my daughter’s sake. What I heard as a child was fear equated with love. What I hear now is so different — and it helped me name what I had internalized all along: if I lose approval, I lose love.
All of a sudden, the deep knowing I’ve had about allowing this time of singleness to work on myself became crystal clear. It’s not just about feeling unworthy because I left my marriage, or fearing I might “bleed on someone who didn’t cut me.” It’s about an unconscious realization I couldn’t put words to before.
I’m not interested in a relationship that becomes a performance. To repeat learned behaviors of over-functioning to feel seen or accepted, mistaking fear for devotion, intensity for care, and tolerating bare minimum effort as if it is normal.
The truth is:
Fear projects. Honesty protects.
Scripture says it best: “There is no fear in love. Perfect love casts out fear.” (1 John 4:18)
The Sabotage Pattern
When love is entangled with fear, it wires us to:
Seek safety in approval instead of authenticity.
Equate intensity or control with devotion.
Overfunction in relationships to avoid “losing love.”
Tolerate mistreatment because fear whispers, “if you overlook this, you won’t lose their love.”
Maybe you’ve noticed some of these in your own life too. The result is always the same: relationships that feel conditional, fragile, and draining instead of safe, mutual, and expansive.
This didn’t just start with me. Honestly, I wonder how much that teaching affected my parents as children themselves — because love and fear being synonymous was something they modeled in my childhood.
They would fight and argue loudly, my mom threatening to leave, my dad screaming cuss words or belittling her and the next day they would act like nothing had happened. My dad usually overcompensating by being overly thoughtful or helpful around the house.
As a child I was curious, and questions helped me understand people’s point of view. But as I grew older, questions weren’t welcome. My dad called them disrespect and told me I was “too much” and needed to learn my place. My mom scoffed, using my questions as proof that I wasn’t smart or capable. My ex-husband was a mix of both, deflecting my questions back on me, making me feel like a burden.
Eventually I learned to quiet myself. To trade curiosity for silence, authenticity for approval. Maybe you know that feeling too: it feels safer not to ask, safer to shrink, safer to perform.
Eclipse Medicine
This solar eclipse in Virgo (opposite Pisces) is activating themes of release, endings, and completion. Virgo asks us to clear clutter of habits, routines, and beliefs that no longer serve. Pisces asks us to soften, surrender, and trust the unseen. And 2025, a 9 year in numerology, echoes that same energy: endings that prepare the way for new beginnings.
Sometimes eclipses bring external shake-ups. Other times, the work is more internal; a quiet revealing of what’s ready to be shed. That’s been my experience this time. Old beliefs and behaviors are surfacing, wounds are echoing, but they’re showing themselves so they can finally be let go.
It’s the cosmic closure we need to move on.
Learning Kabbalah A Catalyst For Deeper Integration
In a recent podcast, David Ghiyam described souls whose correction is a deep fear of abandonment. Pushing love away before it can even arrive.
That hit me. Because I could see it in myself. But deep down I don’t feel in my body that this is my soul’s correction. It’s not originally mine to carry. It is, however, woven into my patterns.
Have you ever realized you were carrying someone else’s fear, mistaking it for your own?
He also said that during this eclipse portal, we’ll be tested with challenges that ask us to remove space. This is energetic space. Every time we judge, every time we take offense, every time we react in hurt…we create space. Space that keeps us separate from others, and separate from miracles. Our work is to remove space by choosing love, giving, and light.
Collapsing time, removing space, mastering motion
In Kabbalah, these three forces — time, space, and motion — are illusions that govern our physical reality. They’re also the root of our limitations, our worries, and our feelings of lack.
Collapsing time means moving beyond worry for the future and guilt from the past.
Removing space means healing judgment and separation so blessings can actually reach us.
Mastering motion means shifting from a state of needing into a state of wholeness.
This eclipse is a portal inviting us to rise above all three. And when we do, we not only release fear; we step into a frequency where love can finally flow without distortion.
The Birthday Test
A chance to remove “space” landed for me in real time last week. My parents brought back gifts from a recent trip to Alaska. Their kindness and love were evident, and I had full appreciation for that. Yet the clothing items they chose were things I’d never wear, reflections of them (mostly my mom) and not me.
Of course, this moment didn’t live in a vacuum. It is tied back to a much deeper thread of a mother wound.
My normal response would’ve been to create space: pull away, shut down, criticize in my head. Maybe you’ve done that too, cut someone off or stewed in resentment, replaying the ways they’ve made connection about themselves and their needs.
But this time, I chose differently.
Even recently I’d had a smaller situation — almost like a set-up by God — that prepared me for this bigger trigger. After all, when it’s your parents, the reaction runs deeper. Part of you thinks: they should know better.
And there it is again: fear and love, tangled.
Instead, I thanked them for thinking of me and acknowledged how much it meant that they wanted to celebrate me. Then I explained the items weren’t my style and might be better gifted to someone else. In that moment, I kept my autonomy and gave them the recognition they deserved.
I can’t heal them. I can’t shift their frequency. But I can choose not to create more space. I can meet them in love, even as I stay true to myself.
I’ll be sharing more about this, specifically the mother wound, in an upcoming essay. It’s been one of the biggest aha’s of my healing journey. For now, the eclipse gave me a glimpse of how that wound still plays out, and how I can choose differently today.
Acceptance & Frequency Shift
This eclipse is a sacred recalibration for all of us. Moving us away from what has been and into creating the life that wants to emerge.
That acceptance of what was is not weakness, it’s a frequency shift.
We don’t have to carry soul corrections that aren’t ours.
We don’t have to perform to keep love.
We don’t have to create space through judgment or resentment.
And maybe that’s the invitation for all of us in this season: to release the beliefs that are holding us back from experiencing life as we know it can be.
For me, that looks like bringing clarity to the chaos of believing love requires fear and shifting into a place that allows me to choose honesty over performance and embody a frequency of love that protects.
Because real love — the kind worth holding onto — is safe, mutual, and expansive.
💬 Reflection prompts for you
Where in your life have you confused fear with love?
What “space” do you feel invited to release judgment, resentment, or self-protection allowing real connection and miracles to come through?
How is this eclipse showing up for you? Have you noticed any internal shifts, endings, or realizations surfacing?
Visual Transmission
The photo below is a painting I created at a spiritual retreat in Costa Rica in January 2023. We were commissioned to paint one canvas of our darkness and one of our light.
At the time, I didn’t have words for what this image meant. Looking at it now, I see the truth my subconscious already held:
The black strokes are silhouettes of two people.
The red is spilling from their mouths — the projection of fear and love tangled together.
The purple forms in the middle are the merging, the collision, the place where union has felt unsafe.
This canvas was my darkness: the entanglement of love and fear that shaped my understanding of connection and made me afraid of intimacy and union.
To realize this now, during an eclipse, feels like the circle completing: what was once unspoken has been revealed so it can be healed. It is time to let go.
